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CEREMONIES PLUS
This page has a variety of Ceremony outlines, Complete Ceremonies and Wedding Vows

TYPICAL CEREMONY OUTLINE

1. Ushers seat guests (Prelude music playing) *
2. Special music begins *
3. Parents and Grandparents of the Bride and Groom are seated
4. The Minister and Groom enter and proceed to the front
5. Maid of Honor and Best Man enter and take their places
6. Bridesmaids and Groomsmen enter and proceed to the front
7. The Ring Bearer and/or Flower Girl enter, proceed to front, sit down
8. Music concludes for bridal party
9. Ushers unroll the aisle runner
10. The Minister asks the audience to rise and welcome the Bride
11. Music begins for the Bride�s entrance
12. The Bride and her escort enter
13. Bride�s music concludes.
14. Greeting
15. Bride and Groom present flowers to parents/VIPs *
16. Consent/Declarations of Intent by Bride and Groom
17. Reading / Meditation *
18. Musical interlude *
19. Charge to couple
20. Exchange of wedding vows
21. Exchange of wedding rings
22. Blessing for the Bride and Groom
23. Bride and Groom light Unity Candle *
24. Pronouncement
25. Bride and Groom kiss
26. Introduction of the couple by the Minister
27. Recessional music begins
28. Bride and Groom exit
29. Bridal party exits and forms reception line.
30. Minister provides instructions to those that remain
Ask about more options
* Optional

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#1 Standard Order of Service, (Sample)


Prelude

Processional

Greeting

Giving of Bride

Prayer

Question of Intent (Declaration of ----)

Wedding Message (5 Minute talk)

Invitation to Exchange Vows

Exchanging of Vows

Personal Vows

Hand Ceremony *

Giving and Receiving of rings

Unity Candle * (Can be here or below)

Blessing

Declaration of Marriage

Unity Candle *

Presentation of Bride and Groom

Recessional

(rose ceremony or sand ceremony can also be used in place of Unity Candle)*

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#2 Simple Order Of Service

Greeting

Giving of Bride

(Prayer)

Question of Intent

Personal Vows

Giving and Receiving of rings

(Blessing)

Declaration of Marriage

Presentation of Bride and Groom


=== SAMPLE COMPLETE CEREMONIES ===

Zion Wedding (Ceremony 1)

OPENING STATEMENT

MINISTER: 'Dearly Beloved: We are gathered here, in the presence of God and of this company, that - - _____ and _______ may be united in holy matrimony. We are here to celebrate and share in the glorious act that God is about to perform - the act by which He converts their love for one another into the holy and sacred estate of marriage. This relationship is an honorable and sacred one, established by our Creator for the welfare and happiness of mankind, and approved by the Apostle Paul as honorable among all men. It is designed to unite two sympathies and hopes into one; and it rests upon the mutual confidence and devotion of husband and wife. - - - May it be in extreme thoughtfulness and reverence, and in dependence upon divine guidance, that you enter now into this holy relationship.' - - -

PRAYER:

Let us pray.

Almighty God, your presence is the joy of every occasion and your favor hallows every relationship. Be especially present and gracious to these two persons, _____________ and ____________, that they may truly be joined in one. As you brought them together in your providence, sanctify them with your Holy Spirit, giving them a new mind and heart for their life together; and grant them, now and always , the promise of your guidance and support, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen

GIVING OF THE BRIDE
MINISTER: 'Being assured that your love and your choice of each other as lifelong companions are in God's will and that you have your families' blessings. I now ask. Who gives this woman to be married to this man?'
BRIDE'S FATHER 'Her mother and I do.' (Bride's father places her hand in Groom's hand and is seated) - - -

DECLARATION OF INTENTION
MINISTER: 'The apostle Paul compared the relationship between husband and wife to that between Christ and the church. Marriage is a decision of two individuals to share the same type of pure, Christian love described by Paul.' 1 Cor 13:4-8, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.... - - - 'This kind of love enriches each part of life and marriage enriches love. Two lives, shared with this kind of love, can hold more fulfillment and happiness than either life alone.

'__________ (GROOM). are you ready to enter into this marriage with - - _______ (BRIDE), believing the love you share and your faith in each other will endure all things?'

GROOM: 'I am.'

MINISTER '________ (BRIDE), are you ready to enter into this marriage with - - ______ (GROOM), believing the love you share and your faith in each other will endure all things?'

BRIDE: 'I am.'

WEDDING MEDITATION: (Optional)
(5 to 10 minutes followed by--)

If then, ______________ and _______________, having freely and deliberately and prayerfully chosen each other as partners for life, will you please unite your right hands and answer me:

MARRIAGE VOWS

(MINISTER) '_____ do you take - - _______ to be your wedded wife, to live together after God's ordinance in holy matrimony? Do you promise to love her, to honor and cherish her, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, and to be to her in all things a good and faithful husband as long as you both shall live?'

GROOM 'I do.' - - -

MINISTER '_______ , do you take - - _________ to be your wedded husband, to live together after God's ordinance in holy matrimony? Do you promise to love him, to honor and cherish him, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, and to be to him in all things a good and faithful wife as long as you both shall live?'

BRIDE 'I do.' - - -

MINISTER WITH GROOM REPEATING:
'I, ____________ , promise to love, honor and cherish you forever. I promise to always stand by your side through the good and bad times. I promise to be faithful and loving. I promise to be the most compassionate husband through sickness, in health and in times of sorrow. I promise to give you all of my heart. I promise to be your partner and best friend. And, I promise to love you with all my heart and soul for eternity.

MINISTER WITH BRIDE REPEATING:
'I, ____________ , promise to love, honor and cherish you forever. I promise to always stand by your side through the good and bad times. I promise to be faithful and loving. I promise to be the most compassionate wife through sickness, in health and in times of sorrow. I promise to give you all of my heart. I promise to be your partner and best friend. And, I promise to love you with all my heart and soul for eternity.

PRAYER
MINISTER 'Father in heaven, You ordained marriage for your children, and You gave us love. We present to You - - _____ and _______, who come this day to be married. May the covenant of love they make be blessed with true devotion and spiritual commitment. We ask that You, God, will give them the ability to keep the covenant they have made. When selfishness shows itself, grant generosity; when mistrust is a temptation, give moral strength; when there is misunderstanding, give patience and gentleness; if suffering becomes a part of their lives, give them a strong faith and an abiding love. Amen.' - - -

EXCHANGE OF RINGS
MINISTER: 'It is a Christian custom to exchange rings as a symbol of love. As the rings have no end so your love should have no end. As the rings are made of gold symbolizing purity, so should your marriage have purity. As often as either of you see them, you will be reminded of this moment and the endless love you promised.'

MINISTER: '_(Groom)_______ , what token do you give that you will perform your vows?' (Minister receives ring and says to bride.) - - - '__(Bride)___________, do you receive this ring in token of the same?'

BRIDE 'I do.'
(Groom places ring on Bride's finger.) - - -

MINISTER WITH GROOM REPEATING: '________ , this ring I give to you in token and pledge of my constant faith and abiding love.' - - -

MINISTER: '_(Bride)_________, what token do you give that you will perform your vows?' (Minister receives ring and says to groom.) '_______(Groom)___, do you receive this ring in token of the same?'

GROOM 'I do.' (Bride places ring on Groom's finger.)

MINISTER WITH BRIDE REPEATING '______(Groom), this ring I give to you in token and pledge of my constant faith and abiding love.' - - -

Light Unity Candle & Sign License *
MINISTER: 'The candle represents the joining together of two individuals to live together as one in spirit. __________ & __________, the candle yet to be lit, represents the new family which is being created today. __________ & __________, are leaving their families to make a new life together.' (Bride & Groom light candle) - - - (Bride, Groom, & Witnesses sign license) - - -

PRAYER
MINISTER 'Let us pray: O thou eternal God, who art our Father and our Friend, as you have heard these words of promise just spoken, may the Holy Spirit deepen in the mind of this man and this woman the sense of the sacred and binding power of their vows. And as in Thy Name these words were spoken to make these lives one, may your rich blessing be added. Give them Your grace and guidance that they may loyally fulfill the vows they have taken. May Your joy abide with them always, that thus they may be a blessing to each other, and to those about them, finding in the blessedness of the home life on earth a sample of the happiness of Thine eternal home. Through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.' (Bride and Groom join right hands.)

DECLARATION OF THE MARRIAGE

MINISTER Foreasmuch as _______________ and _______________ have consentedtogether in marriage, and have witnessed the same before God and this company, have pledged their faith to each other, and have declared the same by joining hands and giving and receiving rings; I pronounce that they are husband and with together, in the name of The Father, and of The Son, and of The Holy Spirit

PRESENTATION
MINISTER 'It give me great pleasure to now present to you Mr and Mrs ______________________.'

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COMPLETE WEDDING (Sample 2)

Prelude

Processional

Greeting
(Say when Bride and Brides father are standing in front)
Dear friends and family, We are gathered here in the sight of God, and in the presence these witnesses, to join together___________ and _____________in marriage. Each of you has played an important role in their lives and each holds a special place in their thoughts. It is appropriate and meaningful that they call upon you on this occasion to take part in celebrating this important event. We are here to bless _____ and ______ in this decision and to celebrate with them in their union.

Giving of the Bride

Who gives this woman to be married to this man? (Bride�s Father says) �Her mother and I do� (Bride�s father places her hand in Groom�s hand and is seated)

Prayer
'Father in heaven, �. Amen.'

Question of Intent

Will you please, as an expression that your hearts are joined together in love, respond to the following question. (To groom) _____, do you take _____ to be your wedded wife, to live together in marriage. Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honor and keep her for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health and be faithful only to her, so long as you both shall live? ______ says: �I do�.

(To bride) _____, do you take _____ to be your wedded husband, to live together in marriage? Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, and be faithful only to him so long as you both shall live? ______ says: �I do�

Wedding Meditation
(5 Minute Inspirational Comments to Couple
Several Sample Meditaions Available)

Invitation to Exchange Vows
If then, _______ and ________, having freely and deliberately and prayerfully chosen each other as partners for life, will you please (unite your right hands and) repeat after me:

Exchanging of Vows
Tom and Groom: I, __________, ---take you, _________, to be my wife. ---To grow with you in love, wherever life may take us,-- So that together, we may continue to grow, ---as partners for the rest of our lives. ---I promise to stand by your side,--- to be faithful and loving,--- to be your partner and best friend,--- and to love you with all my heart and soul for eternity.

Tom and Bride: I, ___________, ---take you, _____________, to be my husband. --- To grow with you in love, wherever life may take us, ---So that together, we may continue to grow, ---as partners for the rest of our lives. --- I promise to stand by your side, --- to be faithful and loving, --- to be your partner and best friend, and to love you with all my heart and soul for eternity.

HANDS CEREMONY (Optional)
�These are the hands� (variation #1)

Bride, please face Groom, and hold his hands,
palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life.

These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.

These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until he too, feels his child stir within you.

These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your baby for the first time.

These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family

These are that hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief wracks your mind.

These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you. -----

Groom, please hold Bride�s hands, palms up, where you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she pledges her love and commitment to you all the days of her life.

These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go.

These are the hands that will massage tension from you neck and back in the evenings after you�ve both had a long hard day.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times

These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving.

They are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope, each time she tells you that you are to have another child, that together you have created a new life.

These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams. Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

Minister:

God, bless these hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love. Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in your grace, rich in caring, and devoted in reaching for your perfection.

May ___ and ___ see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide. And may they place their hands in yours. We ask this in your name,.

Amen.

Giving and Receiving of Rings
Tom: Traditionally, the passage to title status of husband and wife is marked by the exchange of rings. (RECEIVE RINGS FROM Best Man) These rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. --- Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the giver and each is the receiver. --- May these rings always remind you of the vows you have taken.

PRAYER: �Bless O God these rings, that ______ and ________, who give them, and who wear them, may ever abide in thy peace. Living together in unity, love and happiness for the rest of their lives�

Tom and Groom: _____, repeat after me _____ - I give you this ring that you may wear it, --- as a symbol of the vows we have made this day.

Tom and Bride:--- ____, repeat after me --- _____ - I give you this ring ---that you may wear it, ---as a symbol of the vows --- we have made this day.

Blessing
Please join me in prayer. - - Father, our hearts are filled with great happiness this, ---_____ and _____�s wedding day. �.. Amen.

Declaration of Marriage
Tom: _____________ and ____________, In God�s presence and before this company, you have made your promises to each other to be helpful and faithful in your life together. In as much as you have pledged your love to one another in this fashion, I now declare you to be husband and wife.

You May Kiss your Bride

Presentation Bride and Groom
Tom: �May your home be a haven of blessing and a place of peace. I present to you a new family joined in love and blessed by God.
It gives me great pleasure to introduce
Mr. and Mrs. ________________

Recessional

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Sample Religious Wedding Service 3

GREETING
Dear friends and family,
We are gathered here in the sight of God, and in the presence these witnesses, to join together Groom and Bride in marriage. Each of you has played an important role in their lives and each holds a special place in their thoughts and affections. It is appropriate and meaningful that they call upon you on this occasion to take part in celebrating this important event. We are here to bless Groom and Bride in this decision and to celebrate with them in their union.

(At this point, the parents of the bride may be asked "Who gives this woman in marriage." And their reply would be... "we do" or "her mother and I do" or whatever you choose. Some choose to do this. Some do not.)

Music/Solo May Be Inserted Here
SCRIPTURE (or your choice)
(Adapted from I Corinthians 13)
Love is patient and kind.
Love does not envy.
Love does not boast.
Love is not too proud.
Love is not rude.
Love trusts in all situations,
Love hopes on all occasions,
Love endures through all circumstances.

WEDDING MESSAGE
Music/Solo
May Be Inserted Here

INVITATION TO EXCHANGE VOWS
(Addressing Groom and Bride)
I invite you both to exchange vows before God and these friends and family. Be assured that if you keep these promises and attempt to respond to God's calling you to love each other, then God will bless your marriage, grant forgiveness for your failures, provide fulfillment in your days together, and will establish your relationship as a source of compassion and courage.

EXCHANGE OF VOWS
Groom, will you have Bride to be your wife, to live together in marriage? Do you promise to love Bride, comfort her, and care for her and all that she holds dear?
(Groom answers): I DO.
Bride, will you have Groom to be your husband, to live together in marriage? Do you promise to love Groom, comfort him, and care for him and all that he holds dear?
(Bride answers): I DO.

(Groom and Bride join hands, turning toward each other and repeat after me)
I, GROOM, TAKE YOU, BRIDE,
TO BE MY WIFE.
TO HAVE AND TO HOLD
FROM THIS DAY FORWARD,
FOR BETTER, FOR WORSE
FOR RICHER, FOR POORER
IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH,
TO LOVE AND TO CHERISH FOREVER.

I, BRIDE, TAKE YOU, GROOM,
TO BE MY HUSBAND,
TO HAVE AND TO HOLD
FROM THIS DAY FORWARD,
FOR BETTER, FOR WORSE
FOR RICHER, FOR POORER
IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH,
TO LOVE AND TO CHERISH FOREVER.

EXCHANGE OF RINGS
(I receives the rings from the best man)
The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual grace signifying to all the uniting of Bride and Groom in marriage. Bless the giving of these rings, that Bride and Groom may create a haven of love and a place of peace for each other.
(I deliver the ring to Groom who holds the ring and repeats after me):
IN TOKEN AND PLEDGE OF MY CONSTANT FAITH AND ABIDING LOVE
WITH THIS RING I THEE WED.

(I deliver the ring to Bride who holds the ring and repeats after me):
IN TOKEN AND PLEDGE OF MY CONSTANT FAITH AND ABIDING LOVE
WITH THIS RING I THEE WED.

PRONUNCIATION OF MARRIAGE
(I put my hand on the joined hands of Groom and Bride and say): Forasmuch as Groom and Bride have consented together in marriage, and have witnessed the same before God and this company, have pledged their faith to each other, and have declared the same by joining hands and by giving and receiving rings; I pronounce that they are husband and wife together, in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
LIGHTING OF THE UNITY CANDLE (some choose to do this ritual and some do not)
(Music during lighting)

(Groom and Bride kiss each other after I say, "You may kiss.")
BLESSING OF THE FAMILY
(I say) "I present to you a new family joined in love and blessed by God."

RECESSIONAL

POSTLUDE


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Traditional Christian Wedding Service (Ceremony 4)
Opening Words
We are gathered here today in the sight of God, and the presence of friends and loved ones, to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes and blessings to the words which shall unite _____________and________________ in holy matrimony.
Marriage is a most honorable estate, created and Instituted by God, signifying unto us the mystical union, which also exists between Christ and the Church; so too may this marriage be adorned by true and abiding love.
Declaration of Intention

____________ and ____________ I ask you now, in the presence of God and these people, to declare your intention to enter into union with one another through the grace of Jesus Christ, who calls you into union with himself as acknowledged in your baptism.
____________, do you take ________ for your lawful wedded wife, to live together after God's ordinance, in the holy marriage? Will you love, honor, comfort, and cherish her from this day forward, forsaking all others, keeping only unto her for as long as you both shall live?
I do
____________, do you take ________ for your lawful wedded husband, to live together after God's ordinance, in the holy marriage? Will you love, honor, comfort, and cherish him from this day forward, forsaking all others, keeping only unto him for as long as you both shall live?
I do
Scripture Reading
(does not have to be read by me and/or you may choose other readings)

The marriage ceremony represents one of life�s greatest commitments, but also is a declaration of love. I wish to read to you what Paul wrote of love in a letter to the Corinthians. I believe it to be a true model of love, and is one you should both pursue in your marriage:

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Special Music (Optional)

Wedding Message (Optional)

Exchange of Vows

You may write your own or choose from list

Blessing and exchange of rings
The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual bond, which unites two loyal hearts in love. It symbolizes the family as a circle of strength where every union makes the circle grow, every joy shared adds more love and every crisis faced together makes the circle stronger. It is a seal of the vows _______and ______ have made to one another.

Let us pray,

Bless O God, these rings, that _______and _______, who give and wear them, may ever abide in thy peace and continue in thy favor, unto their life�s end; living together in unity, love and happiness, fulfilling your will and purpose, for the rest of their lives. Through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

(______, I give you this ring as a symbol of our vows, and with all that I am and will be, and all that I have, I honor you and our love. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. With this ring I thee wed.)

(______, I give you this ring as a symbol of our vows, and with all that I am and will be, and all that I have, I honor you and our love. In the name of the Father, and of the son, and of the Holy Spirit. With this ring I thee wed.)

Declaration of Marriage
______________________ and ___________________ as the two of you come into this marriage uniting you as husband and wife, and as you this day affirm your faith and love for one another, I would ask that you always remember to cherish each other as special and unique individuals, that you respect the thoughts, ideas and suggestions of one another. Be able to forgive, do not hold grudges, and live each day that you may share it together - as from this day forward you shall be each other's home, comfort and refuge, your marriage strengthened by your love and respect.
Unity Candle (Optional)

"___________________ and ________________ the two lighted candies symbolize your separate lives, your separate families and your separate sets of friends. I ask that you each take one candle and that together you light the center candle.
The individual candles represent your individual lives before today. Lighting the center candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and represents the joining together of your two families and sets of friends to one."

Special Music (Optional)

Prayers

Let us pray,
Dear Heavenly Father, our hearts are filled with great happiness on ______and _______wedding day, as they come before you pledging their hearts and lives to one another. Grant that they may be ever true and loving, living together in such a way as to never bring shame or heartbreak into their marriage. Temper their hearts with kindness and understanding, rid them of all pretense. Guide them to be each other�s sweetheart, helpmate, friend and guide, so that together they may meet the cares and problems of life more bravely. Help them also to notice and share the joys and gifts, which you bestow. And with the passage of time, may the home they are creating today truly be a place of love, harmony and peace, where your spirit is ever present and your counsel sought. Bless the union of these two people, we pray, and walk beside them throughout all of their lives together. Father, we pray for all married persons, that they may continue to give, be able to forgive, and experience more and more of the joy of the Lord with each passing day. And especially for ____________ and _____________, now beginning their married life together, that they may have divine assistance, the constant support of friends, and a long life with good health. May your fullest blessing come upon ____________ and her husband _______________, from this day forward, forever and ever we ask these things in Jesus name who taught us to pray: All pray aloud �Our Father� (Optional)

Pronouncement as Husband & Wife
____________________ and ___________________in so much as the two of you have agreed to live together in Matrimony, have promised your love for each other by these vows, the giving of these rings and the joining of your hands, I now declare you to be husband and wife. Those whom God has joined together, let no one put asunder.
Benediction

Almighty, God, Father, Son, �and Holy Spirit, keep you in his light and truth and love now and forever, Amen

Congratulations, you may kiss your bride.

I present to you Mr. and Mrs. _________________________.

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Contemporary, ceremony. (Ceremony 5)

Opening Words
Good afternoon (morning/evening)! We are gathered here today, not to witness the beginning of what will be, but rather what already is! We do not create this marriage, because we cannot. We can and do, however, celebrate with __________________ and ___________ and their friends and families the wondrous and joyful occurrence that has already taken place in their lives.

The Commitment
_______________ and _______________ this celebration is the outward token of your sacred and inward union of hearts, which the church and temple may bless, and the state make legal, but which neither state nor church can create nor annul. It is a union created by your loving purpose and kept by your abiding will. It is in this spirit and for this purpose that you have come here to be joined together.

Wedding Message (Optional)

Vows
(You may pick other vows or write your own)
______________ (Groom), will you have this woman to be your wedded wife, to live together in marriage? Will you love her, comfort her, and honor her, in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, so long as you both shall live?
I Will!
_______________ (Bride) you take this man to be your wedded husband, to live together in marriage? Will you love him, comfort him. and honor him, in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, so long as you both shall live?
I Will!

Ceremony of the Rings
Traditionally, the marking- of the passage to tile status of husband and wife is marked by the exchange of rings. These rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the giver and each is the receiver. May these rings always remind you of the vows you have taken.

(Each places the ring on the other�s finger and repeats this simple vow:)
"With this ring, I thee wed."

Blessing:

________________ and _________________, remember to treat both yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together.
Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty or fear assail your relationship � as they threatened all relationships at one time or another � remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part that seems wrong.
In this way, you can ride out the times when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives � remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there.
And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your lives together, your life together will be marked by abundance and delight.

Pronouncement
Inasmuch as you have consented together in this ceremony to live in wedlock and have sealed your vows in the presence of this company and by the giving of these rings, it gives me great pleasure to pronounce that you are Husband and Wife.

Congratulations, you make kiss!

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Standard Service (ceremony 6)

Greeting

We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes to the words which shall unite _______________________ and ______________________ in marriage.

Declaration of Intention

____________________ and _______________________ , life is given to each of us as individuals, and yet we must learn to live together. Love is not given to us by our family or by our friends. We learn to love by being loved. Learning to love and living together is one of the greatest challenges of life - and is the shared goal of a married life.

___________________, do you take ________________ to he your Wife? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect her, forsaking all others and holding only unto her?

I do
_____________________, do you take ________________ to be your Husband? Do you promise to love, honor, cherish and protect him, forsaking all others and holding only unto him?

I do
Scripture Reading (does not have to be read by me)you may choose your own)
A marriage ceremony represents one of life's greatest commitments, but also is a declaration of love. I wish to read to you what Paul wrote of love in a letter to the Corinthians. I believe this is a true model of love, and it is a model of love I would hope you both would pursue in your marriage:
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
Special Music (Optional)
Wedding Message (Optional)
Exchange of Vows
You may write your own or choose from list
Exchange of Rings
Wedding rings are an outward and visible sign of an inward spiritual grace, signifying to all the uniting of this man and this woman in marriage.
(Bride and Groom will repeat these vows as they place the ring on the other�s finger:)
�__________ with this ring I thee wed.�
Declaration of Marriage
______________________ and ___________________ as the two of you come into this marriage uniting you as husband and wife, and as you this day affirm your faith and love for one another, I would ask that you always remember to cherish each other as special and unique individuals, that you respect the thoughts, ideas and suggestions of one another. Be able to forgive, do not hold grudges, and live each day that you may share it together - as from this day forward you shall be each other's home, comfort and refuge, your marriage strengthened by your love and respect.
Unity Candle (Optional)

___________________ and ________________ the two lighted candies symbolize your separate lives, your separate families and your separate sets of friends. I ask that you each take one candle and that together you light the center candle.
The individual candles represent your individual lives before today. Lighting the center candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and represents the joining together of your two families and sets of friends to one.

Special Music (Optional)
Prayers
Let us pray,
Dear Heavenly Father, our hearts are filled with great happiness on ___________and __________wedding day, as they come before you pledging their hearts and lives to one another. Grant that they may be ever true and loving, living together in such a way as to never bring shame or heartbreak into their marriage. Temper their hearts with kindness and understanding, rid them of all pretense. Guide them to be each other�s sweetheart, helpmate, friend and guide, so that together they may meet the cares and problems of life more bravely. Help them also to notice and share the joys and gifts, which you bestow. And with the passage of time, may the home they are creating today truly be a place of love, harmony and peace, where your spirit is ever present and your counsel sought. Bless the union of these two people, we pray, and walk beside them throughout all of their lives together. we ask these things in Jesus name who taught us to pray: All pray aloud �Our Father� (Optional)
Pronouncement as Husband & Wife

____________________ and ___________________in so much as the two of you have agreed to live together in Matrimony, have promised your love for each other by these vows, the giving of these rings and the joining of your hands, I now declare you to be husband and wife. Those whom God has joined together, let no one put asunder.

Benediction

Almighty, God, Father, Son, �and Holy Spirit, keep you in his light and truth and love now and forever. Amen

Congratulations, you may kiss your bride.

I present to you Mr. and Mrs. _________________________.

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CEREMONY 7 General Short and Sweet

(Can be used as a Civil Ceremony or a Religious Ceremony )

Minister or Officiant: We have come together to unite the two of you in marriage, which is an institution ordained by the state and made honorable by the faithful keeping of good men and women in all ages, and is not to be entered into lightly or unadvisedly.

Then, the Officiant or Minister turns to the Groom and says:

Do you (Groom�s Name) take (Bride�s Name) to be your wife, to love, honor, comfort, and cherish from this day forth?

Answer: I do.

Then, turning to the Bride:

Do you (Bride�s Name) take (Groom�s Name) to be your husband, to love, honor, comfort and cherish from this day forth?

Answer: I do.

RING VOWS

(Bride�s Name), with this ring I thee wed.

(Groom�s Name), with this ring I thee wed.

Minister: Having pledged yourselves each to the other, I do now, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the state of (Wherever), pronounce you to be husband and wife.

You may now seal this your marriage by kissing each other.

(Bride�s and Groom�s Names), never forget the beginning of your love for one another, take care of it, nurture it, and allow it to grow strong and firm in the years that are to come. Always concentrate on making each other feel happy and secure in your commitment to one another. Always rely on your ability to keep the promises you have made to one another today and always love one another.

Ladies and Gentlemen, may I present to you Mr. and Mrs. (Name).

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You will find more sample vows on the other ceremony pages.

Bride and groom do NOT need to repeat the same vows.

1. (Groom and bride join hands, turning toward each other and repeat after me) - - - I, groom, take you, bride, - to be my wife. - To have and to hold - from this day forward, - for better, for worse - for richer, for poorer - in sickness and in health, - to love and to cherish. Forever. - - I, bride, take you, groom, - to be my husband, - to have and to hold - from this day forward, - for better, for worse - for richer, for poorer - in sickness and in health, - to love and to cherish forever.

2. (Groom and bride join hands, turning toward each other and repeat after me) - - - I, groom, take you, bride, - to be my wife. - To have and to hold - from this day forward, - for better, for worse - for richer, for poorer - in sickness and in health, - to love and to cherish until death do us part. - - I, bride, take you, groom, - to be my husband, - to have and to hold - from this day forward, - for better, for worse - for richer, for poorer - in sickness and in health, - to love and to cherish until death do us part.

3. I, NAME - NAME take you NAME - NAME to be my wife - husband, to laugh with you in joy, to grieve with you in sorrow, to grow with you in love, wherever life may take us, so that together, we may continue to grow, as partners through the rest of our lives.

4. With All My Love I, ____, Take You, _____to Be My Wedded Wife (husband), -- Knowing In My Heart That You Will Be -- My Constant Friend, -- My Faithful Partner In Life, -- And My One True Love. -- On This Special Day, -- I Give To You -- In The Presence Of God And These Witnesses -- My Sacred Promise To Stay By Your Side As Your Faithful Husband -- In Sickness And In Health, -- In Joy And In Sorrow, As Well As -- Through The Good Times And The Bad. -- I Promise To Love You Without Reservation, -- Honor And Respect You, -- Provide For Your Needs As Best I Can, -- Protect You From Harm, -- Comfort You In Times Of Distress, -- Grow With You In Mind And Spirit, -- Always Be Open And Honest With You, -- And Cherish You For As Long As We Both Shall Live.

5. I come here today, (name), to join my life to years before this company. In their presence I pledge to be true to you, to respect you, and to grow with you through the years. Time may pass, fortune may smile, trials may come; no matter what we may encounter together, I vow here that this love will be my only love. I will make my home in your heart from this day forward.

6. Today, (name), I join my life to yours, not merely as your (husband/wife), but as your friend, your lover, and your confidant. Let me be the shoulder you lean on, the rock on which you rest, the companion of your life. With you I will walk my path from this day forward.

7. What have I to give you, (name)? The promise to take you as my only love from this day forward, to stand by your side, to listen when you speak, to comfort you when you cry, and to join your laughter with my own. Take this ring, and be my (husband/wife)

8. As freely, (name), as God has given me life, I join my life with yours. Wherever you go, I will go; whatever you face, I will face. For good or ill, in happiness or sadness, come riches or poverty, I take you as my (husband/wife), and will give myself to no other.

9. I came to this place today as a (man/woman) standing along; I will walk from it by your side. Today I cross the threshold with you and enter into a new and lasting lifetime commitment. (Name), I commit myself to you as your (husband/wife).

10. Today, a day of music and celebration, I pledge to share my life with you. Whether the days that come are happy or sad, I will live them with you. (Name), I give myself to you as your (husband/wife). - Today, a day of music and celebration, I pledge to share my life with you. Whether the days that come are happy or sad, I will live them with you. (Name), I give myself to you as your (husband/wife).

11. Where there has been cold, you have brought warmth; where my life was dark, you have brought light. (Name), I pledge before this assembled company to be your (husband/wife) from this day forward. Let us make of our two lives, one life, and let us always honor and respect each other.

12. (Name), our miracle lies in the path we have chosen together. I enter this marriage with you knowing that the true magic of love is not to avoid changes, but to navigate them successfully. Let us commit to the miracle of making each day work - together.

13. Whatever lies ahead, good or bad, we will face together. Distance may test us for a time, and time may trie us. But if we look to each other first, we will always see a friend. (Name), look to me for all the days to come; today I take my place as your (husband/wife).

14. In the presence of God and before these witnesses, I, - Name - take you - Name - to be my wife/husband , to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health; in joy and in sorrow; to love and to cherish; and to be faithful to you alone, as long as we both shall live.

15. Name � in the presence of God and before these witnesses, I take you to be wife/husband. I give you my hand, I give you my love, I give you myself. I pledge to stand by you as long as we live. Come, travel with me, and share the road both when it is hard and when it easy.

16. In the presence of God, and before our family and friends I, - Name - take you - Name - to be my wife/husband; to laugh with you in joy; to grieve with you in sorrow; to support you in sickness and in health; to grow with you in love; and to be faithful to you alone, as long as we both shall live.

17. I take you - Name - to be my wife/husband, and these things I promise you: I will be faithful to you and honest with you. I will respect, trust, help, and care for you. I will share my life with you. I will forgive you as we have been forgiven, and I will try with you better to understand ourselves, the world and God; through the best and worst of what is to come, until death parts us.

18. I, - Name -, take you, - Name -, to be my wife, knowing in my heart that you will always be my friend, my partner in life and my one true love. On this special day, I give to you in the presence of God, my promise to stay by your side as your husband, in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, as well as through the good times and the bad. I promise to love you without reservation, to honor and respect you, to provide for your needs the best that I can, to protect you from harm, to comfort you in times of distress, to grow with you in mind and spirit, to always be open and honest with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live. - - I, - Name -, take you, - Name -, to be my husband, knowing in my heart that you will continue to be my best friend, my partner in life and my one true love. On this special day, I give to you in the presence of God, my promise to stay by your side as your wife, in sickness and health, in joy and in sorrow, as well as through the good times and the bad. I promise to love you without reservation, to honor and respect you, to comfort and support you each and every day, to laugh with you and cry with you, to grow with you in mind and spirit, to always be open and honest with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

19. "Name - I love you - and on this day I wed you. - - Not just for who you are, - but for who I am when I'm with you. - I love you not for what you've done with your life - but for what you're doing with mine. - - I love you for making me good, happy and whole. - Because, - Name - that is what you do. - Without a word. - Without a gesture. - Without a doubt. - Just by being yourself. - - Such a simple thing... - but no one else in the world can do it. - Only you.... forever. - - This day, before our family and friends - With joy in my heart - I pledge myself to you as your husband / wife - promising to love you - to cherish our moments together - for now and forever.">Name - I love you - and on this day I wed you. - - Not just for who you are, - but for who I am when I'm with you. - I love you not for what you've done with your life - but for what you're doing with mine. - - I love you for making me good, happy and whole. - Because, - Name - that is what you do. - Without a word. - Without a gesture. - Without a doubt. - Just by being yourself. - - Such a simple thing... - but no one else in the world can do it. - Only you.... forever. - - This day, before our family and friends - With joy in my heart - I pledge myself to you as your husband / wife - promising to love you - to cherish our moments together - for now and forever.">"Name - I love you - and on this day I wed you. - - Not just for who you are, - but for who I am when I'm with you. - I love you not for what you've done with your life - but for what you're doing with mine. - - I love you for making me good, happy and whole. - Because, - Name - that is what you do. - Without a word. - Without a gesture. - Without a doubt. - Just by being yourself. - - Such a simple thing... - but no one else in the world can do it. - Only you.... forever. - - This day, before our family and friends - With joy in my heart - I pledge myself to you as your husband / wife - promising to love you - to cherish our moments together - for now and forever.

20. My Oath to You - When you are sad, I will dry your tears. When you are scared, I will comfort your fears. When you are worried, I will give you hope. When you are confused, I will help you cope. And when you are lost, and can't see the light, I will be your beacon, shining ever so bright. This is my oath; I pledge to the end. Why you may ask? Because you are my lover and friend.

21. THE PROMISE OF OUR MARRIAGE - - My beloved __________ (name), - romance may fade, but true love endures. - I choose to truly love you - with kindness, faithfulness, and respect, - through every circumstance that life may bring. - - Because I treasure you, I will daily devote myself - to support, encourage, comfort, and defend you - as we together face the coming moments of - sorrow and joy, sickness and health, poverty and wealth. - - When I have been wronged, I will forgive. - When I do wrong, I will confess with contrition. - When conflict dims our days, - I will exercise the patience of true love - and seek the light of wise counsel. - Most of all, I will rejoice and thank the Lord - for completing me with the gift of you. - - And through His infinite grace, - I know that no matter what may come, - I will remain by your side - with enduring devotion and fidelity - for as long as He allows us to share this earthly life. - - This is my solemn vow because, - in you, I have truly found the one my soul loves. - - May the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit - guide us and bless us each day - from this moment forward.

22. Personalized Vows - As we face the future together, I promise to stand by your side. I promise to unfailingly share and support your hopes, dreams and goals. I vow to be there for you always.- When you fall, I will catch you. When you cry, I will comfort you. When you laugh, I will share your joy. Everything I am and everything I have is yours, from this moment forth and for eternity.

23. Personalized Vows - I accept you to be my husband, secure in knowledge that you will be my friend, my faithful partner in life, and my one true love. On this special day, I give to you in the presence of all those in attendance my promise to stay by your side As your wife in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, as well as through good times and bad. I promise to love you, comfort you in times of distress... laugh with you and cry with you, grow with you in mind, always be open and honest with you, and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

24. Personal Vows - I, [name], promise to love, honor, and cherish you forever. I promise to always stand by your side through the good and the bad times. I promise to be faithful and loving. I promise to be the most compassionate wife through sickness, in health, and the sad times. I promise to give you all of my heart. I promise to be your partner and best friend. And, I promise to love you with all my heart and soul for eternity.

25. Personalized Vow - I love you. I pledge to grow in my Love for you. I pledge to nurture our Love for it is loving you that nurtures my soul. I pledge to share our Love together as One. I love you because you are the only one for me. To know you is to know Love - and through you, know True Love. - - I love you because you are the One who completes me. I can not know union without you - for it is by joining you that I learn about Love's union and where it comes from. - - I love you because it is my soul mission in Life to learn our Love. I do not so much seek to heal you, but to embrace our Love that fills our Life as a way of healing each other. I see your Love for me in your eyes and I see what freedom is, what True Love is. - - I promise to support your growth and share the fullness of myself. I promise to honor you by being open to all the expressions of your inner self. I promise to allow our Love we share become our Prayer we live. Above all, I promise to be true to you and true to myself so that we may grow in our Love that joins us as one. - - If the Eagle is the symbol of freedom born out of True Love, then I am one wing and you are equally the other. Let us fly together in harmony and may gentle winds carry us all the way to Heaven.

26. Personalized Vow - - My beloved, romance may fade, but true love endures. I choose to truly love you, with kindness, faithfulness, and respect, through every circumstance that life may bring. - - Because you are the treasure of my heart, it will be my joy to support, encourage, comfort, and defend you as we together face the coming days of sorrow and joy, sickness and health, poverty and wealth. - - When I have been wronged, I will forgive. When I do wrong, I will confess with contrition. When conflict dims our days, I will exercise the patience of true love and seek the light of wise counsel. - - Most of all, I will rejoice and thank the Lord for completing me with the gift of you. And through His infinite grace, I know that no matter what may come, I will remain by your side with enduring devotion and fidelity for as long as He allows us to share this earthly life. - - This is my solemn vow because, in you, I have found the one my soul loves. May the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit guide us and bless us each day from this moment forward.

27. ___________, and I pledge myself to you now, to be your ever-faithful wife/husband. I give you my mind, my body and my heart and I promise to love you and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

28. Episcopal Church exchange of vows - Groom: In the name of God, I, (name), take you, (name), to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow. - Bride: In the name of God, I, (name), take you, (name), to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.

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